Pondering "When the Violin"

For months I have been wanting to pair a photograph of a violin and Hafiz’s poem “When the Violin”. I was finally able to do this this past Friday. I have been pondering this paring for a long time and wanted to reflect and write on it. This poem spoke to me the first time I read it. It stabbed me in the heart. It took my breath away. I remember thinking to my self this is what I need to do and this is who I want to become.

I long to “stop worrying about the future” and “become such a drunk laughing nuisance”!  These phrases struck a chord with me. Being overcome with laughter is such a beautiful image of a way to live ones life. Laughter invokes great joy and a letting go of the worries of the world. Laughter lets us become our authentic selves because we have to let our guard down and take off the mask we show the world. Laughter is also about being fully present in the moment. When we in the midst of a truly hardy laugh we are not thinking about what we must do tomorrow, how we are going to pay the credit card bill, or wonder what others think of us. We are just laughing and enjoying being fully present in the moment.

The final stanza of the poem pierced my heart. To “forgive every wound caused by others” and for my “heart to start singing” is a huge step to authentic and wholehearted living. It struck me that Hafiz did not say forgive the people who caused the wounds but instead forgive the wounds caused by others. Forgiveness is about transforming our own wounds into hope and courage. This journey of transformation may include forgiving the person or people that caused the wound. However, ultimately is the wound that needs healing and transformation so that we can live a life of hope and courage.

When we can name and forgive our wounds they no longer define us. Instead we are set free to be our authentic selves and our whole being can start singing our part in God’s great song...or we can “become such a drunk laughing nuisance” that God joins in our singing and laughter! This is how I strive to live my life!

Friday Photographs

When the Violin

When

the Violin

Can forgive the past 

It starts singing.

When the violin can stop worrying

About the future

You will become

Such a drunk laughing nuisance

That God

Will then lean down

And start combing you into

His

Hair.

When the violin can forgive

Every wound caused by

Others

The heart starts

Singing.

-Hafiz

(A special thank you to my friend Karen Morgan for loaning me her father's violin to photograph!)

Transformational Forgiveness

I have discovered that true forgiveness very difficult yet amazingly transformational.  Forgiveness means letting go of the fact that the past could have been different. When you feel someone has betrayed or hurt you one naturally feels anger and or resentment for that person.  In my experience I need to let myself truly feel these feelings and not sweep them under the rug.  I found that prior to forgiveness every time I would see a person or hear about them I would have a physical reaction and think unkindly about them.  I is difficult to be around them without these reactions.  After some time passes these feelings of anger or resentment eats away at you.  You expend a lot of unnecessary energy being angry.

Forgiveness does not mean forgetting the past.  It does not make the what the person did somehow right.  It may still be wrong.  It means letting go of the anger and resentment.  In my experience it means that when I see that person I no longer have a negative physical reaction and my thoughts are more loving.  You may even be able to have positive interactions with that person.  The energy that you previously expended in anger can now be expended in more positive ways.  

Forgiveness is a shift in thinking and feeling.  It is a shift in how you see the other person-you can begin to see them as God does.  It is a shift in ones feelings-from anger to peace.  True forgiveness is transformational!