Transformational Forgiveness

I have discovered that true forgiveness very difficult yet amazingly transformational.  Forgiveness means letting go of the fact that the past could have been different. When you feel someone has betrayed or hurt you one naturally feels anger and or resentment for that person.  In my experience I need to let myself truly feel these feelings and not sweep them under the rug.  I found that prior to forgiveness every time I would see a person or hear about them I would have a physical reaction and think unkindly about them.  I is difficult to be around them without these reactions.  After some time passes these feelings of anger or resentment eats away at you.  You expend a lot of unnecessary energy being angry.

Forgiveness does not mean forgetting the past.  It does not make the what the person did somehow right.  It may still be wrong.  It means letting go of the anger and resentment.  In my experience it means that when I see that person I no longer have a negative physical reaction and my thoughts are more loving.  You may even be able to have positive interactions with that person.  The energy that you previously expended in anger can now be expended in more positive ways.  

Forgiveness is a shift in thinking and feeling.  It is a shift in how you see the other person-you can begin to see them as God does.  It is a shift in ones feelings-from anger to peace.  True forgiveness is transformational!